Am I happy? A month after I decided to look past my ego to really focus on the meaningful things in life, have I reached that ever alluding concept of paradise?
As with all things, it is a lot easier said than done. Happiness is not a pokémon. You can’t just say, “I choose you” and this amazing companion of loyalty and love will come out and do your bidding. Oh life would be a lot more adventurous and fun if that was the case! But unfortunately, reality is… well, more realistic.
In my meager twenty-something years of experience, I find that happiness is a state of mind that must be actively pursued. And to me, a positive mind is a happier one. Now how does one really go about changing their mindset? Your mind and the way you think is made up of all these emotions and experiences since the day you could string together a thought.
It’s a hard thing to do, but you really need to view yourself objectively. Take a step back and look at who you are, how you think and what you tend to do. Even for me, I’m still learning new things about myself every day. It really is an ongoing process, but I feel that if you’re willing to truly see, you’ve already started moving in the right direction.
A very close friend of mine, from a life long ago, really highlights my feelings on this matter. His words can be quite poetic, and I find them beautiful in their honest observations. I’m going to leave you with one of his many insightful facebook posts that really got me into this way of thinking. On a side note, can you guess what he’s studying in grad school?
“For many of us, happiness is something sought after – something out of reach that must be pursued. This kind of happiness is future-oriented, dissipating our energy to live for the future, and abducting us from the only moment that matters – Right NOW.
We hear all the time that, “life isn’t perfect.” So we set ourselves to chase dreams, raise our standards, or find some way to alter our imperfect lives. But, the very act of “wanting” creates unhappiness and disappointments.
When we are too preoccupied with chasing, we develop this linear or tunnel vision, restricting our peripheral vision. For example, it’s like driving a car to a destination – we miss all the glory and wonders that can only be appreciated from walking.
Take a moment, take a breath, and take a step back – widen your vision – your peripheral vision – to open yourself to receive and accept.”